The longer something goes on, the more obvious the similarities, as well as the differences, between people become.
Whether it is a relationship, public policy, a situation….
As long as something is new there is something to discover.
And sometimes learn something.
Sometimes that’s fun and sometimes it’s not.
If you have the flu, the first few days are sometimes quite nice….even rest….even nothing….you can feel unwell then as a nuisance but also sometimes a bit as a welcome moment of rest.
Maybe you even really needed it.
Some people will say that your flu came because you needed to take a break.
But if it takes a long time, or if an illness is chronic, it becomes a different story. Maybe you don’t know when it stops and the novelty is gone.
Do you become restless, insecure, sad, frustrated, wanton, depressed…..
Or you become relaxed, adapt, can make it happen, resign yourself to your situation, become creative in new ways…..
The longer a difficult situation lasts the greater the differences become apparent in how people deal with a situation.
The emotion that becomes dominant,
The feelings people experience,
How they deal with that,
Whether they communicate in the process or not,
How they hide or just show up and be heard,
How they look for it close and need precisely to blame others.
In which wave?
I myself find that I am in my 3rd wave when it comes to Corona.
In the first wave, I was fine, relaxed, able to be there for others who were suffering from something, and my work went on. I did like it, that “quietness.
My second wave was short. But intense. All of a sudden, I got a gasp. I had to leave. Away from everything.
And everything had to be different.
I was frustrated and angry and sad and for a few days nothing was really right. Everyone got their asses kicked too and I couldn’t really listen to anyone. Most of all, I was powerless and angry. Sad and “fed up.
The 2nd wave originated during the past Christmas vacations. Or you can also say during the (current) lockdown of Dec 2021/Jan2022.
The contrast with “normal” circumstances during this period was apparently just too confronting for me. Came in without knocking.
After a few days of ranting and raving it was over ….and then came the 3rd wave;
I’m back at work….I like it when the sun shines….I’m quietly waiting again….
Quiet?
Well….nearly then….. the restlessness lurks in my body…..wat exercises….still remember that there is no new normal…..
The road back soon is something I look forward to.
But I’m also a little scared.
Afraid it won’t be as close and familiar as it was, afraid that distance will be hard to reduce if not everyone and I mean everyone….. wants it.
And if not everyone helps each other close the resulting gap.
Inviting each other, crossing the bridge, bringing each other together….
How do you want it? And in which wave are you yourself? Do you have energy? Trust? Plans?
Or do you need others to invite, help, comfort, reassure, challenge you……?
If you share then it helps.
If everyone shares, we can find each other again and again.
Then you won’t get lost in the search.
Dare to Share, Dare to Ask, Dare to Help.
I wish everyone a beautiful 2022.
Stay in touch!
Liesbeth
