The Phoenix Challenge is designed for anyone who, because of Corona or other causes, has withdrawn from society to a greater or lesser extent and is suffering as a result.
If home-working or some other reason makes you feel or feel alone at home. If you struggle to pick up the thread of social interaction, live meeting and daring the dynamics with others and the environment. If you want to but can’t manage (well).
To enter into the 30-day challenge, you need a Phoenix score sheet.
It is available free of charge to anyone who needs it. Who, as before, or perhaps better than before, wants to feel comfortable and confident interacting live with people, known and unknown.
For many people it is difficult to find their way back after a period of action that has triggered a retreat.
If that was difficult for you, but also if it was “quite pleasant” for you, you may have taken it further than the arrangements called for. That you tended to hide, avoid contact, withdraw….. and sometimes that also has the effect of giving you negative thoughts, taking less care of yourself, starting to believe that it’s better this way….. and slowly but surely becoming less comfortable in your own skin.
So that you surrender more freedom than is needed or demanded. You may then find yourself “living” less. To be and stay happy in the long run, interaction is needed.
The Phoenix 30-Day Challenge invites you to pull yourself out of this quagmire step by step, day by day.
If you have any questions about this challenge you are welcome to contact us.
If you can’t figure it out on your own, you can of course seek help from friends, family, a coach or other counselor. It doesn’t matter where, of course, as long as it helps you and if you dare to ask for and receive help. But it can be done, for example, at Bepper Coaching in Leiden (online and live in Leiden 😉
Explanation of the Challenge
On the Phoenix scorecard you will find all the terms. Per rule, you give yourself a score each day. It’s very fast. The summed scores is the Phoenix score.
The idea is, before your Phoenix Challenge, you first do a 0 measurement. In other words, what is your Feniks score right now?
From this 0 measurement, you try to do this meeting for 30 days, every day.
The daily measurement includes a Phoenix Day score (fill in the 30 rounds of days), and a few questions whose answers you write down for yourself.
You don’t have to continue to the maximum score. The maximum score (70) does not have to be the best for you at all. On average, you could say that a goal of 40 points provides a nice balance in your life. More is allowed, a little less too, but if you stay stuck at or below 30, then I imagine asking for help is at least a good idea.
This is not a science, but an indication. It’s all about your honest feelings about your life and how it’s currently looking and what that’s doing to you.
From the hope that this contributes a little bit, I give you this for free and wish you the best of luck in your process toward greater happiness in your days. By signing up for the Letter from Bepper, you will automatically receive a welcome email that contains the download link.
and receive the Phoenix 30-Day Challenge card for free via a download link in the confirmation email.
You can also download the Phoenix 30-day-challenge chart below directly from the link below.
Terms & Explanation
Because you can interpret the terms you see on the Phoenix scorecard differently, we list them below and tell you roughly what we mean by them.
You can then better assess what score you assign per term for the day.
|Term||What do we mean by it? We paint a picture.|
|Consuming||buying (too) much. Ready-to-eat or delivery meals. Not seeing yourself as part of a problem.|
|Produce||Making, repairing or developing something. Contributing to a solution. Cooking yourself. Creatively seeking opportunities.|
|Passive||Do nothing. Not taking initiative. Assuming others will fix it. Not feeling power nor ownership. In other words, no action.|
|Active||Takes initiatives. Comes with contribution. Thinks along and/or participates. Doesn’t give up. Invests.|
|only||Being alone or isolating yourself by secluding yourself among others. By not making (eye) contact, leaving your headphones/ears on. Not opening the door or not answering the phone. Not responding to external stimuli.|
|Together||Making contact, taking initiative. Being social and interactive with other people. With people you know. With people you don’t know. Talking together, living together and doing things or working on things together.|
|Outside||Out of the house, fresh air, being able to feel wind, rain, sun and outside temperature.|
|Inside||Between the walls of your home, office, room, etc.|
|City/Village||In built-up areas are. Traffic. Sound. Asphalt, stones, crowds.|
|Nature||Greenery (meadow, forest, beach, heath, etc.), water and air without city sounds or corporate noises. So at a distance from things made by humans.|
|Something for yourself||That what you do just because you allow yourself to. Something you feel spoiled with, but that is not bad for you.|
|Something for another||Something you do for another or for others that makes you contribute to something bigger than yourself.|
|Live contact||Real people, real conversations, real contact. Superficial and with substance. So not through any device, in any form.|
|Relax||Something that allows you to leave your thoughts for a while. An empty head. A relaxed body. Looking around you with wonder and peace.|
|Move||Using your body actively, for practical purposes or for physical, health purposes. Or because you enjoy it.|
|Working / learning||Earning your living, or working voluntarily, and developing yourself. Reading, discovering, exploring or doing new things. Whether through an institute or not.|
|Healthy eating||Although opinions on this vary quite a bit, you probably know what is at least NOT healthy. So you leave that in 95% of the cases.|
|Healthy drinking||Although opinions on this vary quite a bit, you probably know what is at least NOT healthy. So you leave that in 95% of the cases.|
|Tidying up/cleaning something||Hygiene is important, for yourself and your immediate environment. If you neglect your place to live, then you are probably neglecting yourself as well. If you leave it to someone else, the guilt doesn’t do your self-esteem any favors most of the time either.|
|Daydreaming / Loafing||Doing nothing at all. A period a day. Sometimes fifteen minutes, sometimes an hour….. no devices, no screen, no paper….just being in the environment with your eyes open, observing, without judgment, fantasizing a little…thinking a little…philosophizing…. ….without purpose.|